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#11: Safe to Become: The Quiet Path from Performance to Peace with Brandy Graham

• Gillian Gabryluk • Season 1 • Episode 11

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What if peace doesn’t come from pushing harder, but from feeling safe enough to stop performing?

In this episode of Be Still and Live, we sit with identity and legacy coach Brandy Graham for a deeply grounding conversation about safety, belonging, and the freedom that comes when we slow down enough to listen inward. Together, we explore why safety, not striving, is the true doorway to peace, and how stillness can become the most forward-moving force in your life.

Brandy shares the wake-up moments that changed everything: a kitchen trash can crawling with maggots after months of depletion, and a terrifying ambulance ride with her heart racing past 200 beats per minute. These moments marked the end of pushing through and the beginning of a new kind of authority - one rooted in breath, presence, and truth-telling. From that place, she developed the SAFE method she now guides others through: See, Allow, Free, Embody.

We reflect on how to gently notice survival patterns without judgment, why image is not identity, and what it means to live congruent on the inside and the outside. Brandy offers simple, accessible practices to help you return to yourself, wherever you are, including a hand-to-heart 4-2-6 breath, morning light to support your natural rhythms, and micro-gratitude to shift from scarcity to sufficiency.

This conversation also touches on boundaries without guilt, the courage to say no, and how to hear your inner voice beneath the noise of screens, schedules, and constant proving. If you’ve ever felt like you have to hold it all together to be worthy, let this be your permission to exhale. You don’t have to earn your way back to yourself, you already belong.

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Brandy:

What surprised me the most, I would say, in my work is that slower is faster, and that less is more.

Gillian:

If your days feel full, but your heart longs for more meaning, you're not alone. Between the screens, the schedules, and the never-ending noise, it's easy to lose your sense of peace. But what if the way forward isn't found in doing more, but in learning to slow down, to simplify, to be still. Welcome to Be Still and Live, a podcast for individuals, couples, and families longing for calm, connection, and a more meaningful way to live. I'm Jillian, speaker, coach, and founder of Saleo Health and Wellness, and I'm here to help you create space for stillness and step into a life that feels whole and good again. Today's conversation is about identity, freedom, and what it really means to feel safe being who you are. I'm joined by Brandi Graham, an identity and legacy coach and the founder of the Safe to Become Method, work that helps high-performing women release the need to perform and reconnect with their true selves. In this episode, Brandy shares her journey of moving from striving to surrender and how the path to peace begins with safety, not achievement. We talk about how to break free from the pressure to prove the difference between identity and image and what it means to live from your soul instead of your survival patterns. If you've ever felt like you have to keep it all together just to be loved or valued, this conversation is an invitation to exhale, to remember that you don't have to earn your way back to yourself. Hi, Brandy. I'm so happy you're here. Thank you for taking the time to join me today. Hi, I'm happy to be here. Happy to have you. I've been looking forward to this one, Brandy, because your message is right at the heart of what we talk about here on Be Still and Live, remembering who we are beneath all the doing. The work you do helps high-performing women specifically untangle the patterns of striving, overgiving, and silent pressure, empowering them to lead from wholeness. Brandi, before this passion took flight, there was a version of you who was striving, performing, and achieving, like so many of us. Let's start there. What did your life look like before you began your work as an identity and legacy coach when you were in the space of striving and proving yourself?

Brandy:

Well, I have been a stylist for nearly nearly 25 years. So I've been behind the chair talking to women, and I still do that. I'm transitioning out to do more impactful work that's not so superficial. But what it looked like was my business as a stylist. I work independently and a mother and trying to do everything, keep my home in order, prepare the meals, look after my clients, doing all the bookkeeping, the ordering because I'm an independent business. So it was just a lot of things. And what's interesting is that I didn't put myself on the list of things that I also had to do.

Gillian:

Right. That's a familiar feeling. So was there a moment you realized you were building success, but losing touch with yourself?

Brandy:

Yes, there have been several moments, but I wouldn't really define it as there was success and I was losing touch with myself. I think I just had been out of touch with myself for a while. And I was just exhausted. I was burnt out. So I would go to work and perform for my clients, and then I would take care, look after my daughter, and I would make sure my house is clean and she was fed and I was fed. And everything that comes along with the emotional labor of being a mother and a business owner. And then I would go home and I would just lay in bed and I would be exhausted. Like I thought I had, I thought I had chronic fatigue syndrome. I was looking for answers for the level of just extreme exhaustion that I felt. And what happened to me is because I was in bed whenever I didn't have something that I had to be performing for out in the world. I got up one day and I went in my kitchen and I needed to put something in the trash. And then the trash can, there it was. It was maggots. I had been so consumed with everything that there was decaying trash in my home. And it was such a jarring wake-up call. Like, oh my God, like I wasn't even paying attention. I was just kind of existing, kind of just surviving, and I wasn't doing that very well to the point where I had organisms in my trash can. Right. So that's when I knew something needed to change. Yeah.

Gillian:

What a contrast. I know the feeling of sitting in a stylish chair, how they make you feel so beautiful. You walk away feeling like you're on top of the world, especially as a woman who is, you know, trying to achieve all these different things in life. And the contrast of how you are making all of those women feel, and then come back, coming back to your home and witnessing that in your own life. I can imagine that that was a moment that caused you to pause and really reflect on, you know, how you were caring for yourself. So, what did that pressure to perform feel like in your body or your everyday life? What did it feel like for you? You said that it felt like chronic fatigue.

Brandy:

Yeah. Um I felt like I was dragging myself through my own life, just trying to do the things that needed to be done to survive. It felt like survival. There was no thriving. I didn't really find pleasure in what I was doing, but I know I needed to do it because I was responsible not just for myself, but for someone else. And the women that would sit in the chair were looking for me to provide something for them. I it felt like I was doing a lot of exerting myself, yes, but a lot of output and not any input. And so seeing those maggots, it was like what's wow, like what is happening? Like what just happened? It wasn't like my house was a mess, because it wasn't right, but I hadn't taken the trash out. Yeah. And it just festered. And it was, yeah, a mess.

Gillian:

Maybe a little bit symbolic. That's I feel like that's such a familiar feeling for so many of us, Brandy. And thank you for sharing that story because I feel like a lot of women who are listening can resonate with the idea of pouring yourself into all the things around you and then coming home and feeling like you have nothing left to give to yourself and sometimes the people that you care most about. Um, what did you start noticing happening when you slowed down long enough to pay attention to that?

Brandy:

Well, I had to look myself in the mirror. That was like a get-real moment. So I would like to say that that was the realization that changed everything, but it wasn't. Because of course, I took the trash out and I kept going and kept doing to the point where my body decided it could not continue, and I was in the back of an ambulance. Wow. I just couldn't like I was doing too many things. And I remember going to pick my daughter up from daycare at the time, but something in my body, my chest, was like, I don't feel right. Like, that's the only way I can describe it. Something just didn't feel right in my chest. It wasn't chest pain or tightness or any, it wasn't that. It just, I didn't feel right. So I continued, I picked her up and I came home and I called the ambulance and I called um my father, who I said, hey, I'm calling the ambulance. Something doesn't feel right, so I'm going to call the ambulance. So you would need to come with and stay with my daughter. And um they came, and at the time when the ambulance came, you know, uh, I let them in and I was like, can you make this stop? Because at the time my heart was speeding over 200 beats per minute. And that's a terrible feeling because I felt like I had no control. But it was my body, and they told me, um, they transported me to the hospital. But before they did, they told me, you have to make it stop. And I'm thinking to myself, how? How can I, you know, like it's my heart. But I thought that they could do something. Something outside of me could do something to make me feel different. So that was also a symbolic moment. And so they kind of walked me through how to, you know, do like vagal moves to bear down, take a deep breath, and bear down to, you know, calm my heart down. Um so, yeah, that the maggots and then the heart. Just my body was rejecting everything that I was putting it through. And emotionally I needed to address what was happening inside.

Gillian:

Yeah, I I uh I hear your story and I see myself in your story. I experienced, and I shared this in the beginning of the podcast, a very similar nervous system breakdown. And that feeling you have in your chest, the feeling of no control is so real and it's so scary. But I think what happens is you feel it coming on as a slow drip of anxiety that just builds and builds and builds. And we're taught to ignore it. We're taught to keep pushing, we're taught to be courageous and to just show up. But our bodies know better, it seems. Our physiology is built in a certain way to protect us. So if we don't listen to those nudges, our bodies take over. And, you know, the the re the ways, the reason that we get there isn't our fault. It's the disorder of the world around us, of the culture we live in. Our body is being ordered by talking to us that way and trying to give us these subtle nudges. And when we don't listen, our body breaks down. And that's that's the um that is the ultimate scream that your body is is directing to you to listen, to pay attention. Absolutely. You can't ignore that. You can't. You can't. And I know you do.

Brandy:

Sorry, go ahead, Randy. No, uh, to your point about that's how society is, we have been ignoring our voice. So it is it's normal to continue to do that, to dismiss it, or to call it something else, or that's not it. We have to pay attention because we matter.

Gillian:

Absolutely. So, Brandy, at some point something shifted because here you are on this podcast today. You began exploring what it means to feel safe in your own skin. I'd love to talk about that turning point. Was there a specific experience or season that sparked the idea behind the method you created called Safe to Become? Well, yes.

Brandy:

Through, you know, it's not just theory. This is my own life's work and my work with others, because I do not think that, you know, once we get to a certain point, we may not be able to do this by ourselves. I think it's important to have someone who can witness our blind spots and to call us forward and to guide and support us in the work, whether that be a coach, a therapist, a mentor, a really good friend who is emotionally intelligent and objective, or we go inside and we journal, whatever it is, whatever we use, our tools. But um, for me, what I realized is why I had been ignoring myself, why so many of us do, is because it isn't safe. It's not safe to our nervous systems to honor our voice because we have been trained, and the baseline for our nervous system has been the prior training, the previous survival system that we're still living out to deny, dismiss, dishonor, diminish the voices that we have. And so we don't oftentimes know who we are, what we want, what we like. And we don't use our voice to communicate that because we're not clear. And so that's what the safe method is about. See, allow, free, and embody. We have to see what's really happening, become aware of what's happening inside of us in our minds, in our bodies, in our lives, that obviously is uncomfortable, it doesn't feel good, we don't like it. So there's something that's not working for us, and we want to shift it. But we first need to see where that came from and allow our truth to rise. Tell the truth. How do we really feel? What do we really want? What is the problem? If you weren't afraid, what would you say? If you didn't have to perform, what would you do? And then free ourselves from that story. Reprogram ourselves, rewire our brains, and embody who we really want to be, embody the truth, our authentic selves. And it's really just about a home going. It's like returning home to yourself.

Gillian:

I'm getting goosebumps as I listen to you, Brandy, because I know how much I needed to hear these words just over a year ago and how much I need to hear them today and just remind myself of what matters most. I love the acronym you use for the method that you designed based on your own life experience. See, allow, free, and embody. That's just such a beautiful process to start with awareness, to having the courage to really see where you're at, to look at yourself in the mirror, as you said, and to be honest with yourself. I really do believe that that's where it starts. But we do often need help and support to get to the next steps to allow to free and to embody, to embody, you know, the practices in life that you need to really thrive and not just survive. So, Brandy, I'm curious to know what surprised you the most about that transition, what you had to let go of, or to really come home to yourself.

Brandy:

What surprised me the most, I would say, in my work is that slower is faster and that less is more. And so that's when I am my best self, when I slow down, when I sit with, when I allow to rise what's in me, when I create space for, when I'm not always trying to fill the space, the words, the fit in a void, not trying to fill spaces with things and activities and external things, social TV, food, sex, alcohol. I mean, you can you can fill the voice. Yeah, you can dumb with anything. But instead of avoiding, I told the truth.

Gillian:

And that's a very brave and courageous thing to do because you know it's so easy to hide from that truth your whole life. And some people do make it to the end of their life hiding there the entire time, but you're here to tell us that it's not worth it. That it's exhausting. It is exhausting. It's exhausting. And you can only maintain that facade, that you know, external presence for so long before your body just completely crumbles, which both of us have experienced.

Brandy:

We were we were very fortunate because um our bodies didn't crumble, but we were awakened by our bodies. But yeah, our bodies could crumble, but what about our our mental state or our emotional state that is silently crumbling? That's what I've witnessed with so many women in the in the beauty industry. I make them look, they look good when they leave. They're successful, they're doing good, it looks good, it smells good, but it does not feel good inside. And so that's what I want to help women do for everything to be congruent and aligned. And that's where you can feel confident and be yourself. Just embody who you are and take up space. Stop shrinking, use your voice and feel worthy because you are.

Gillian:

Absolutely. You are worthy and you are enough just as you are, which is a message we need to hear more in all in our culture. That word safe is such a powerful one, and um, you describe it as something that our nervous system can understand. Our nervous system knows when we feel unsafe and when we feel safe. And it sounds like you're returning women to that space of safety and wholeness, which is such a gift. Right. Your work centers on helping women reconnect with who they are already. I love that because we so often think transformation means becoming someone else. How do you help women start peeling back the layers of who they think they should be?

Brandy:

Well, I would say because they have silenced themselves for so long, which is not completely their their fault. We we touched on that, but just finding a safe space to tell the truth, whatever the truth is for them. I think that's really important because they have ignored and dismissed what they feel far too long, and the truth doesn't always sound good, but you need to tell it to yourself first and get comfortable with sitting in that whatever your truth is for you first, and then you can live it out. So it starts with honesty.

Gillian:

And it sounds like there's there's strength in that honesty when we ignore and dismiss things, we we do show up as our weaker self. But when we face the truth and we start embodying who we truly are, I mean, women are incredibly capable. They are amazing creatures and they have this strength, this courage, this brave side of them that is completely capable of showing up in every area of life when they're aligned. So, Brandy, what's one of the biggest misconceptions you see about identity work or self discovery?

Brandy:

That's a good question. I think that there is no magic pill, right? There's no magic, but there's not a one thing. There is an there's a I have a toolbox full of different things that can be applied to various areas of your life. But I think simplicity is best. There's nothing outside of you that is going to make you feel whole. You already are, but you don't feel it because you're looking for it outside of yourself with your achievements and money and beauty. I think I believe that, like I stated before, less is more. So allow your intuition to come back online. And the way to do that is to get quiet and to allow space for you to feel how you feel, to just make time for yourself. And I like to do certain things to activate the circadian rhythm. So, like first thing in the morning, getting some sunlight in the eyes, maybe going for a walk. These are things that kind of help you get back in your body, regulating your nervous system. Sitting in nature, I think, is incredibly therapeutic. And I've found that so many women have big feelings. You know, we all have big feelings for human. But what happens is when I'm talking to them, they don't want to feel them. For example, they can be sad. This is just a very simple example. They may be sad, maybe something happened, but they don't allow themselves to cry. I don't know why sometimes crying is so hard.

Gillian:

But we resist it.

Brandy:

Resist it, yes. But if you don't get it out, it dysregulates your nervous system. So you have to feel it. It's salt. Like I say, salt water is so therapeutic. The ocean, your tears and sweat. So use it. It's therapy. You need to release it. Feelings are not, they don't need to be trapped in the body. They come to go. They actually come to go. Just let it rise and fall, just like the wave sent the sea.

Gillian:

Oh, I love that analogy. It's so healing to be able to accept, to notice, to accept, and to allow those emotions to flow through you and not get stuck in you. They get stuck when you avoid them. Hmm. Yeah. And you need to feel that safety to allow them to flow through you, which means the people around you need to encourage those emotions to flow through you, which can be difficult.

Brandy:

It's uncomfortable. Nobody Yeah. I mean, I don't know people that just enjoy sitting around crying. Yeah. You know, but the only way to get through it is to go through it. Right. So you must feel it.

Gillian:

Right. The only way to get back to life is to acknowledge those emotions, let them flow through so you can show up again. Absolutely. That's beautiful. I love that analogy of the ocean and your tears and your sweat being like the water of the ocean. Brandon, you talk about creating the life and legacy your soul's been asking for. How can someone begin to even hear that voice again? You talked about being quiet and you have this beautiful toolbox that sounds like it came from your own life experience. So you knew you know these tools work. There's something to be said about that. But is there anything more specific about how people can hear their voice again? Stop distracting.

Brandy:

Stop distracting yourself from it's there, but you have to just allow it to be heard in an or if you've been distracting yourself from it from a long time, busy, if you're too busy, then you're not going to hear your voice. You're not gonna hear it. It's muffled, it's there, but it's just been buried under all the things that you have going on. I mean, I really don't think it's complex. I think it's so simple that you miss it. So many people miss it. Like it's gotta be more to it than this. Actually, it's not, you know, and I compare a lot of the things to exercise and diet. Well, it's gotta be more complicated because I mean, if I want to get strong, like, is it really just eating sufficiently inappropriate calories for what I want to accomplish and working out a few days a week? Is it is that is there something else? Maybe I can take creatine, maybe I can take pre-workout, maybe I can. No, it's really simple. It's so simple, you're gonna miss it. Breathe. Yeah. Honor your voice. If you're tired, why are you pushing? Maybe you need to sit. Maybe you need to relax. Maybe you don't need to go to the party just because you were invited and you're tired, but you feel like if you don't go, then what are they gonna think about you? They're gonna think that you don't care about them because you didn't show up to support them. Maybe you don't need to go, maybe you need to honor how you feel. You had a long day at work and you don't need to go because you're afraid that they're going to think you're a bad person or you don't care about them if you don't show up for them. Like it's we create all of these stories in our, and they're not true. But we don't know how to shift it because it's a program. It's our program that we're running on. And so in order to, in order to get something different, we have to disrupt the program. And we don't know how to do that. And we think that it's something massive and big, but it really isn't. It's incredibly simple. And getting some support in that can be beneficial because it's it's not more strategy, it's not more affirmations, it's not necessarily more journaling prompts. Those things are tools and they're beneficial, but it's not necessarily that.

Gillian:

Yeah, it's it's so simple, but it is not easy. It's not easy, is it? I mean, because we've been wired, we constantly come back to that desire to overcomplicate it. And that's what we naturally do. So understanding that it's simple can all probably make you more frustrated if you're not able to do it, because it isn't easy. And that's where it's helpful to have somebody walk alongside you and to breathe that life into you and that truth into you so that you continue to remember who you are.

Brandy:

Right. And like you said, it's contrary to everything that we have been fed and told. But that's part of the plan. Because if you're distracted from yourself and you're looking externally for most of your guidance or whatever the case, what's external has control and power over you. So when you return to yourself and you become, you get in your body and you come back online, you your body is your powerhouse. Like that's where you really have true agency because you lean into how does this feel? What does this mean? What do I need? Yeah. What is this telling me? And we sit with it, the answers come up. I mean, this is yes, it's simple. There's more to it. And that's why you get a therapist, a coach, a mentor, or somebody to walk alongside you because it's a it's an it's a whole process. That's why I created the methodology of safe, because there are steps. But you definitely want to start with seeing.

Gillian:

Yeah, absolutely. I I completely agree with everything you're saying, Brandy. And I can tell that it's coming from your heart. Like you speak this with such wisdom because you've walked through it yourself and you've seen how this process transforms people's lives. Absolutely. So, Brandy, you you mention all of these things, and I'm just, I mean, we we live in such a world of noise, don't we? It's not easy to simplify. It's not easy to move away from those distractions. And there's there's more and more distractions when we look at where AI is going and the world is going. Those distractions are only going to become more complicated, more um intertwined in our lives. So it seems like it's more important than ever to learn how to practice this ability to remove yourself from distractions and come home to yourself. You mentioned that peace for you right now looks like quiet time in nature. I'd love to go there for a moment because that's something that I mean, not everybody has as much access to nature as others. So I want to be sensitive to that. But what does that practice look like for you? What happens when you give yourself that space in nature?

Brandy:

I love nature. I was thinking that the other day. Oh my God, like I just love the earth. I have a backyard with a lot of trees, and there's squirrels and birds. But everyone, like you said, doesn't have that. But we all have access to the stars at night. We all get to see that. So there may not be, you know, a green zone around us where there's lots of trees and grass, but there are stars and there is sun. And just waking up and sitting in the air outside, breathing semi, semi-fresh air is amazing. And if we can access some water, like if we can get near the water, wow. Like that is so powerful. What I do, I just go outside and I sit and I watch the birds and I listen to the airplanes and the cars driving down the street, and the squirrels just sit. And I'm usually filled with such gratitude. Gratitude that I can hear, that I can see, that I can smell, that, you know, and everyone doesn't have that's a gift. It's a luxury. I'm grateful for having clean water and hot water because it's getting cold outside. It is. I'm grateful that I have the luxury currently to go to my refrigerator and get anything I want. To prepare anything I want. I go to the grocery store, and at this time I can purchase what I choose. Like we don't think about these things often. And then I think while I'm preparing my meals, who grew this? Who planted the seeds for this? Who farmed it, put it on the truck, stocked it in the store. Like it's so many hands went into that for me to have this. That I oftentimes we're not thinking about it. Like my coffee this morning and the creamer. You know what I'm saying? There are so many things that we can be grateful for. It doesn't have to be because I made a lot of money on my job or I got this degree. I'm thankful that I have teeth that I can chew. You know what I'm saying? It's it's simple.

Gillian:

The littlest things. It really does change the lens of which you look at the world through when you're grateful for those small things.

Brandy:

Yes, I think we sometimes look at our lives on a macro level, and we need to look at it on a micro level, a molecular, microscopic level.

Gillian:

And that happens when we get rid of the distractions. Yes. And focus on the little things. All of those things that we miss when we're constantly plugged in. That's where the magic happens. I hear you saying that. So, Brandy, for women who are listening, who are constantly on, and for the men, if there's any men listening today, what's one small rhythm or practice that helps them begin to release the pressure? If they just need something to step in the right direction, what advice do you have for them? I would start with something that we all have currently.

Brandy:

And that's your breath. Because without it, you don't live. And sometimes we're holding our breath and we don't even realize it. So I would start with just three breaths with your eyes closed, a weighted hand on your heart, and another hand on your belly. I would start taking four deep breaths in. Three rounds of this, by the way. Four deep breaths in. And when you inhale, your belly should expand like a balloon. And then hold for two counts, two seconds, and exhale slowly for six seconds. And just do that three times. Four in, hold for two seconds, six seconds out. Simple. Everybody has breath in their one in their bodies so they can practice that. And so what that really does is it helps us to get back online, to get back in our bodies, to ground really quickly, to take a moment to pause so that we can respond instead of react.

Gillian:

That's so doable. And it's something that we all have access to, no matter where we live, no matter what our financial picture is like, we all have access to breath. So thank you for sharing that, Brandy. As we close this conversation, this beautiful conversation that has been full of wisdom. I always like to offer listeners a gentle invitation, something they can carry into their own lives. What would you say to someone who feels disconnected from who they are, but doesn't know where to begin?

Brandy:

Definitely start with the breath because that would slow you down, right? So then you can kind of, like I said, come back online and respond instead of react. So start there. And another thing that I would encourage is a very like, I don't want to give you too many things because I don't want it to seem like, oh, I got to do this and do this. But no, breathe. And second, I would say a very short start small, small practice of gratitude. So before you get out of bed in the morning, you can set an intention. Uh, today I intend to be patient in traffic. Just set that small intention. And then what are three things you're grateful for? I'm grateful that I have a bed. I'm grateful that I have a job either. I may not like it, but I have it. I'm grateful that I have hot coffee on this cold day. I'm grateful for those three things. Simple. I would start there. And I think looking for some support or some guidance to help you rewire your brain. Gratitude is great for rewiring your brain and it has so many health benefits. But I think it's really important to have a guide, a support person that can walk you through. Because I mean, if we could do it, we would have done it, right? To walk you through disrupting those patterns and changing your story so that you can change the trajectory of your life and show up differently. Because you cannot outperform your self-concept.

Gillian:

It's it's so simple. The tools that you're giving us just to be able to start integrating into our own life and creating safety in ourselves instead of waiting for the world to give it to us. It seems like we're always grasping and searching and seeking for a guru. But you're reminding us that we have the wisdom to start coming back to that place of safety, that place where our nervous system can relax and really have the opportunity to start living a life that we love, to coming back to that place of wholeness. So that being said, Brandy, I'm I'm sure that people are interested in what you do and how you're able to help them. Where can people connect with you and learn more about the safe to become method and the coaching that that uh you are so naturally gifted at?

Brandy:

Well, you can find me on LinkedIn, Brandy Graham on LinkedIn. Um, I refer to myself as the Legacy Liberator because I help you free yourself from your story. And your legacy is not necessarily what you're leaving behind. It's not only what you leave, it's what you live. So you're living your legacy right now. And also Legacy Liberator on Instagram. And I will preface by saying I'm not super active, but I do check my DMs and my messages. So both of those will take you to my private site if you want to book a call.

Gillian:

Wonderful, Brandy. And I will link those to the description on this episode so listeners can go there to connect with you. And I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am I am for this. I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for this conversation that this is so aligned with the message of Soleil Health and Wellness of helping people remember who they are and that we have more power than we've been led to believe. The power to come back home to ourselves and to start living a life that we love. And um, you know, women have such a, we have so much potential to change the world around us when we start practicing this simple practice that you talk about of coming home to ourselves and to really living our truth. So thank you so much for being here. This conversation has been just a healing, I think, opportunity for a lot of people. So I appreciate your time. Thank you for having me. Absolutely. My pleasure. Brandy's reminder that we're already safe to become who we were created to be is such a powerful truth, especially in a world that often tells us we have to perform to belong. You can connect with Brandy and learn more about her safe to become method through the links in the show notes. Until next time, may you find the courage to slow down, to listen deeply, and to remember you are already enough. Thank you so much for listening to Be Still and Live. If today's episode brought you a breath of peace or a moment of clarity, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, or share it with someone who might need it too. For more resources to support your journey toward a slower, simpler, more connected life, visit Sileocoaching.com or connect with me on Instagram at SaleoCoaching. Until next time, be still and live.

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